Yes I am back already. I am so disappointed right now I woke up this morning with the woman issue and I am really hurting right now because a couple months ago I ended up with an ectopic pregnancy and ever since the surgery to remove the tube I have been in so much pain the first day I get my period. Unfortunatly it has come today and I am in alot of pain but I still have to go on here I promised my daughter she could water paint today and I cannot go back on that I really feel that my word has to be genuine with my kids so they know they can depend on me at all times and that my word is good. Anyway I have gotten her situated at the kitchen table with newspapers everywhere and her waterpaints out and ready and she is painting away while I try and sit here for a little bit with the heating pad. I am really glad that this only last about a day but this one day can really make it tough to do the normal everyday routine. But there isn't a break in motherhood alot of the time you just dig deep and do it.
Talk to you all later.
Wednesday, April 22, 2009
What a week so far.
Hello everyone and what a week it has been so far.
Can anyone tell me why as soon as I sweep and mop my kitchen floor it becomes a magnet for juice or milk to be spilled on it. And where are the disposable clothes gosh it seems like when I am done the laundry of course it is never really done but when I think I have caught up with it and it is all put away I have another two loads to do. I do the laundry for 4 of the 5 people in my house and you know the bigger the kids get the more loads I do. So anyone ever feel like a robot that keeps washing and cleaning over and over again.
Oh Yeah on top of that trying to keep up with the 3 kids. I thought when the kids got older it would be easier. Don't get me wrong it is easier with sleeping through the night and not getting spit up on all the time. But it just becomes difficult in other ways. Like my 15 year old I am having such a hard time getting it through his hard head that he needs to keep his grades up. I just don't understand why he insists one doing his work half fast. I know he can do better then he is doing and he is just being lazy. I have always told him I would rather see a hard working "C" if he is doing his best and he just doesn't get it or it is just not something he is great at, then to see a "D" just because he doesn't want to do the work. It is so frustrating to me to see this. How do you make a 15 year old care I feel like my husband and I have tried everything to give him incentives to do better and I have even gone the other way and he has gotten punished but it all just doesn't work. So if anyone has any advice let me know because I am at a loss.
Well I am off to get the other 2 little ones day started I will be back soon!
Can anyone tell me why as soon as I sweep and mop my kitchen floor it becomes a magnet for juice or milk to be spilled on it. And where are the disposable clothes gosh it seems like when I am done the laundry of course it is never really done but when I think I have caught up with it and it is all put away I have another two loads to do. I do the laundry for 4 of the 5 people in my house and you know the bigger the kids get the more loads I do. So anyone ever feel like a robot that keeps washing and cleaning over and over again.
Oh Yeah on top of that trying to keep up with the 3 kids. I thought when the kids got older it would be easier. Don't get me wrong it is easier with sleeping through the night and not getting spit up on all the time. But it just becomes difficult in other ways. Like my 15 year old I am having such a hard time getting it through his hard head that he needs to keep his grades up. I just don't understand why he insists one doing his work half fast. I know he can do better then he is doing and he is just being lazy. I have always told him I would rather see a hard working "C" if he is doing his best and he just doesn't get it or it is just not something he is great at, then to see a "D" just because he doesn't want to do the work. It is so frustrating to me to see this. How do you make a 15 year old care I feel like my husband and I have tried everything to give him incentives to do better and I have even gone the other way and he has gotten punished but it all just doesn't work. So if anyone has any advice let me know because I am at a loss.
Well I am off to get the other 2 little ones day started I will be back soon!
Monday, April 20, 2009
It is Monday already!
I don't know where the weekend went. I wish that could go slower. I am up and starting my morning routine with lunches and getting the kids up and ready to go back to school. Sometimes I wish the time would stand still and sometimes I would want it to go fast (that is rare).
You know I was having my kids clean their rooms yesterday and I don't know why it is such a battle my middle son had no problem he started it right away and it took him a long time but he did it. But my daughter kept coming in and saying I need someone to help me now to remind you she is 5 but still she made the mess. So my oldest son he is 15 started helping, that helped alittle bit but then she would come in and say he is doing anything and I would reply you go in there and start helping you are lucky he is up here helping you. I finally said we are not going outside if it is not done. She ended up falling asleep for awhile and then when she got up I told her the room still needs to be clean. I don't know where I am going wrong because it took forever but she finally got it done. Their has to be an easier way of doing this I don't know how to get her to clean without a fight and without it taking half the day. I also to understand how it can get to be such a mess in her room sometimes I cannot walk in it if I don't stay on top of her cleaning it up right after she is done playing with something. So if anyone has any advice with this let me know.
Well I am going to go and get the oldest one up and start making lunches for everyone.
Have a great day!!
You know I was having my kids clean their rooms yesterday and I don't know why it is such a battle my middle son had no problem he started it right away and it took him a long time but he did it. But my daughter kept coming in and saying I need someone to help me now to remind you she is 5 but still she made the mess. So my oldest son he is 15 started helping, that helped alittle bit but then she would come in and say he is doing anything and I would reply you go in there and start helping you are lucky he is up here helping you. I finally said we are not going outside if it is not done. She ended up falling asleep for awhile and then when she got up I told her the room still needs to be clean. I don't know where I am going wrong because it took forever but she finally got it done. Their has to be an easier way of doing this I don't know how to get her to clean without a fight and without it taking half the day. I also to understand how it can get to be such a mess in her room sometimes I cannot walk in it if I don't stay on top of her cleaning it up right after she is done playing with something. So if anyone has any advice with this let me know.
Well I am going to go and get the oldest one up and start making lunches for everyone.
Have a great day!!
Sunday, April 19, 2009
A week has gone by!
Good Morning all,
This week has gone so fast. I don't even remember half of what I did except when it was beautiful I was outside with the kids after school and after dinner. I really enjoy being outside with my neighbors and their kids it is a peaceful time and hectic at times. But I get to be out with adults and talking to someone that is my age and is going through the same issues I am. For example your child is being stubborn and throwing a tantrum because they are not getting their way, you stick to your guns and they slowly get over it. But then one of your friends is outside with you and their child throws a tantrum and does the same thing your child did a few minutes ago and you realize gosh my child is not the only one that does this and my friend goes through the same thing I go through. We deal with it most of the time the same and sometimes differently and sometimes it is a learning experience on my part seeing another way of dealing with my child and seeing if another way would work out better next time my child does her melt down or tantrum.
We need to stick together as mothers and always be open for advice because this is the only support we can get that is accurate because the other mother is going through the same thing we are. Lets face it raising a child is the hardest thing to do on earth and when we do it full time 24/7 it is hard because it is constantly you. No one else takes care of them during the day you are always the one there.
But on the other hand working mothers have it just as hard but on the other side of it. You have to get up and get them out the door. Then you drop them of at the sitter or day care and only hope they don't give you a hard going in so you can get to work on time and not feel guilty dropping them off. After that you work a hard job all day you go pick up the kids and you start the rest of the of your day doing all the mommy stuff and sometimes it last all the way through the middle of night if you have an infant or if you have a sick child or a stubborn child that feels that your bed is their bed. Either way we all do a great job! Sometimes it does not feel like it but we do our best!!!
Have a wonderful Sunday I will be back tomorrow.
This week has gone so fast. I don't even remember half of what I did except when it was beautiful I was outside with the kids after school and after dinner. I really enjoy being outside with my neighbors and their kids it is a peaceful time and hectic at times. But I get to be out with adults and talking to someone that is my age and is going through the same issues I am. For example your child is being stubborn and throwing a tantrum because they are not getting their way, you stick to your guns and they slowly get over it. But then one of your friends is outside with you and their child throws a tantrum and does the same thing your child did a few minutes ago and you realize gosh my child is not the only one that does this and my friend goes through the same thing I go through. We deal with it most of the time the same and sometimes differently and sometimes it is a learning experience on my part seeing another way of dealing with my child and seeing if another way would work out better next time my child does her melt down or tantrum.
We need to stick together as mothers and always be open for advice because this is the only support we can get that is accurate because the other mother is going through the same thing we are. Lets face it raising a child is the hardest thing to do on earth and when we do it full time 24/7 it is hard because it is constantly you. No one else takes care of them during the day you are always the one there.
But on the other hand working mothers have it just as hard but on the other side of it. You have to get up and get them out the door. Then you drop them of at the sitter or day care and only hope they don't give you a hard going in so you can get to work on time and not feel guilty dropping them off. After that you work a hard job all day you go pick up the kids and you start the rest of the of your day doing all the mommy stuff and sometimes it last all the way through the middle of night if you have an infant or if you have a sick child or a stubborn child that feels that your bed is their bed. Either way we all do a great job! Sometimes it does not feel like it but we do our best!!!
Have a wonderful Sunday I will be back tomorrow.
Sunday, April 12, 2009
Happy Easter Everyone!
What a wonderful day to spend with the family. This was such a great day for me. I started out with the kids getting up and seeing what the Easter bunny brought, then we had our egg hunt. I love watching my children having so much fun. After that we went to church and saw the kids Easter program ( of course I had them all dressed up in their Easter outfits.) We came home had lunch and played with some of the toys they got. Then we ended up outside in the afternoon and did another harder Easter egg hunt with the neighbors. After that we had dinner and watch the movie "Bolt" all cuddled together in our bed. Finally, we are all winding down and getting ready for another week to begin.
As you see my day was busy but I loved it as much as I can feel the overwhelming parts of my regular schedule these times with my family just make it easier to appreciate what I have and thankful for how wonderful and blessed my family is, and how blessed I am to have such a wonderful family.
I hope you all had a great Easter and I will be back tomorrow!!
P.S. Thank you all for following my blog. I did notice I have another follower thank you so much "New Mommy"and good luck with the new baby. If you have any questions or anything you ever need to talk about let me know. That is why we both have blogs.
As you see my day was busy but I loved it as much as I can feel the overwhelming parts of my regular schedule these times with my family just make it easier to appreciate what I have and thankful for how wonderful and blessed my family is, and how blessed I am to have such a wonderful family.
I hope you all had a great Easter and I will be back tomorrow!!
P.S. Thank you all for following my blog. I did notice I have another follower thank you so much "New Mommy"and good luck with the new baby. If you have any questions or anything you ever need to talk about let me know. That is why we both have blogs.
Friday, April 10, 2009
The Biggest Burden we Carry as Parents!
Good Morning all,
You know I started this blog for all housewives to be open and honest about everyday life. I was picturing my blog to be funny and sometimes serious but with some humor. I apologies in advance for this post being so sad and serious but it is on my mind so I came here to write what I am feeling.
If you have not notice yet it is about 12:45 am, I cannot sleep. It has been a while since I have had a night where I am up after a nightmare and couldn't go back to sleep within a half hour.
Well here it goes our biggest burden in my opinion is keeping our children SAFE!!! I was half a sleep when the world news came on and they talked about the little girl Sandra.
Oh what a beautiful happy little girl, that was just innocently skipping down the road where she lived. That is the last time she was seen by anyone that loved her, the last time any of her friends saw her or even strangers saw her alive! EXCEPT for the person that took her life from this world!!!!! This person just took a little girl that had her whole life ahead of her, her hopes and dreams gone. Her parents hopes and dreams for her gone and now her parents life will never ever be the same again and they have to live with the worst loss in the world!!!
My heart is breaking right now for her family and friends. For her whole community, everyone stepped up for approx. 10 days looking for her hoping and praying that they would find her alive.
I cannot phathom or even imagine what these parents are going to have to bare now. Their worst fear just became a reality. Don't get me wrong I know it is happening everyday numerous times a day to parents and I am thinking about them also. But this one just hit me because it is so public and it is fresh in my mind I just had a horrible nightmare about it!!! I am praying for Sandra's family and also to all the families that have lost a child or love one.
Praying is the only thing we can do at all times for our childrens safety and for all the other children around us and for all parents. But we can also be aware of our surroundings, we cannot be comfortable we have to be alert of anything and everything going on around our children. Us parents need to stick together we see something that we don't feel comfortable about but it is not our child we cannot just let it slide, I know it is hard sometimes to go into someone's business but we have to do it. Trust me I have been slackful on and off with my children but I am outside with them I just don't know if I have stayed as alert as I could be.
Of course I am not saying we should be living in fear or be paranoid, but I am saying it is nothing like when alot of us were little and we could go outside by ourselves and our parents wouldn't have to worry as much. Unfortunatly we are not it that world anymore and their are people out in our world today taking our children, our flesh and blood, our lives away from us and we have to do all that we can to stop them. Before anyone says anything I am not saying that Sandra's parents or any other parent that has had a child taken wasn't doing everything they could I wouldn't ever say that or suggest that I don't even know them personally I just know that it is an unbearable thought of what has happen and it has gotten me really angry, sad, and totally aware of what I can do better for my children and the children surrounding me. This blog is to help me and others when we put our suggestions and opinions on the board.
Like I said earlier these are my feelings and my opinions. I do apologize for this post being so depressing but I really couldn't leave my feelings inside!! I hope I didn't mess up to much on the grammar and spelling it is late at night and I am for surely not perfect so, sorry in advance if something is wrong.
Well I am off to try and go back to sleep!
God Bless you all.
You know I started this blog for all housewives to be open and honest about everyday life. I was picturing my blog to be funny and sometimes serious but with some humor. I apologies in advance for this post being so sad and serious but it is on my mind so I came here to write what I am feeling.
If you have not notice yet it is about 12:45 am, I cannot sleep. It has been a while since I have had a night where I am up after a nightmare and couldn't go back to sleep within a half hour.
Well here it goes our biggest burden in my opinion is keeping our children SAFE!!! I was half a sleep when the world news came on and they talked about the little girl Sandra.
Oh what a beautiful happy little girl, that was just innocently skipping down the road where she lived. That is the last time she was seen by anyone that loved her, the last time any of her friends saw her or even strangers saw her alive! EXCEPT for the person that took her life from this world!!!!! This person just took a little girl that had her whole life ahead of her, her hopes and dreams gone. Her parents hopes and dreams for her gone and now her parents life will never ever be the same again and they have to live with the worst loss in the world!!!
My heart is breaking right now for her family and friends. For her whole community, everyone stepped up for approx. 10 days looking for her hoping and praying that they would find her alive.
I cannot phathom or even imagine what these parents are going to have to bare now. Their worst fear just became a reality. Don't get me wrong I know it is happening everyday numerous times a day to parents and I am thinking about them also. But this one just hit me because it is so public and it is fresh in my mind I just had a horrible nightmare about it!!! I am praying for Sandra's family and also to all the families that have lost a child or love one.
Praying is the only thing we can do at all times for our childrens safety and for all the other children around us and for all parents. But we can also be aware of our surroundings, we cannot be comfortable we have to be alert of anything and everything going on around our children. Us parents need to stick together we see something that we don't feel comfortable about but it is not our child we cannot just let it slide, I know it is hard sometimes to go into someone's business but we have to do it. Trust me I have been slackful on and off with my children but I am outside with them I just don't know if I have stayed as alert as I could be.
Of course I am not saying we should be living in fear or be paranoid, but I am saying it is nothing like when alot of us were little and we could go outside by ourselves and our parents wouldn't have to worry as much. Unfortunatly we are not it that world anymore and their are people out in our world today taking our children, our flesh and blood, our lives away from us and we have to do all that we can to stop them. Before anyone says anything I am not saying that Sandra's parents or any other parent that has had a child taken wasn't doing everything they could I wouldn't ever say that or suggest that I don't even know them personally I just know that it is an unbearable thought of what has happen and it has gotten me really angry, sad, and totally aware of what I can do better for my children and the children surrounding me. This blog is to help me and others when we put our suggestions and opinions on the board.
Like I said earlier these are my feelings and my opinions. I do apologize for this post being so depressing but I really couldn't leave my feelings inside!! I hope I didn't mess up to much on the grammar and spelling it is late at night and I am for surely not perfect so, sorry in advance if something is wrong.
Well I am off to try and go back to sleep!
God Bless you all.
Thursday, April 9, 2009
Expectations
Good Morning and welcome to my blog it is great to see I have another follower.
I am going to talk about the expectations we have for ourselves. Sometimes they are realistic but sometimes they aren't. We want to be the "Supermom" and you know that is not possible. When my second child was born I stayed home for about 5 months, I put so much pressure on myself thinking I have to have my house immaculate I have to have a hot meal on the table when my husband got home, and then I had to be the one who took care of the baby at all times because my husband just worked 8 hours or 10 hours. I shouldn't be home all day and not doing anything. Of course that was how I thought I wasn't suppose to sit down when the baby was sleeping. I suppose to be cleaning, doing the bills, doing the laundry (because I shouldn't have any dirty clothes in the hamper at anytime) I am a stay home mom I don't have to goto work this is my job. You know I did it and I ran myself ragged. I had these expectations for myself that were just not realistic. After 5 months I had to go back to work because of finances so I went to a day care so I could be with my baby all day and get paid. Now this became a totally different situation. I still thought I had to do it all I would get so frustrated with myself when my house wasn't up to par and trust me it wasn't dirty, it was lived in but it was clean. So I went through the next 2 years just being the do all my husband help here and there but most of the time I still felt this is my job.
Well baby #3 came along I was financially able to stay home again. Oh I was so excited so I thought. having a 7 yr old and a baby was one thing, but having a 10yr old, a 3 year old and a newborn totally different and my husband went to night schoo 2 days a week. Talk about overwhelmimg I didn't know what end was up some days because I was running myself to the ground because I still had to be supermom and have everything done everyday and my husband better come home to a clean house and nice dinner etc. BUT the thing is my husband never ever told me that this is how it was suppose to be I brought all this pressure on myself thinking that I was a bad wife and mother if this isn't how I did it.
What changed things, well I ended up being diagnosed with Graves disease in the spring my daughter was 7 months old my sons were 3 and 10. I was in and out of the ER a few times, we moved into a bigger house (more to clean) and I had major surgery to get my Thyroid removed in July. I was out of commission for about 2 weeks and had to depend on other people to do things for me. By the time the fall came my daughter was a year old and I started getting really depressed and having panic attacks. I wasn't sleeping I got up every morning on about 2 to 3 hours of sleep and I just was going through the motions I started feeling like I didn't want to live I didn't want to be a mom anymore because I sucked at it and I hit the point when my husband go home from work I would go up in my room shut the door and lay in bed a cry. I had no reason to be doing it I had everything I ever wanted a wonderful husband, 3 healthy beautiful children but I did not want to be there and I did not want to live anymore. Well everyone knows where I am going with this I finally got on medication and started counseling and I realized that I was suffering from Post Pardom Depression now I was shocked because how could that be my daughter was a year and half. Well what I came to realize with my counseling was that I had PPD since the baby was born and then of course it got worse when my thyroid came out. My point is I was so sucked in to being this supermom and super wife that I didn't pay attention. I was going through the motions all this time thinking I was doing everything right that I didn't pay attention to what I was really doing to myself.
After about 3 months of counseling and medication I started realizing that the EXPECTATIONS I gave myself were way to high. Yes my house had to be cleaned the kids needed to be taken care, the laundry and meals had to be done. But I took a step back and said my house doesn't have to be immaculate all the time I can have laundry in the hamper, and I can sometimes give my children and husband an easy dinner yes we have had cereal for dinner before.
So ladies we are great moms and wives without overbearing ourselves with the pressure that we usually put on ourselves. Take a day off give yourself a little me time it is worth it and you will realize that you are a better mom for it. I hope you all have a great day and I will be back soon.
I am going to talk about the expectations we have for ourselves. Sometimes they are realistic but sometimes they aren't. We want to be the "Supermom" and you know that is not possible. When my second child was born I stayed home for about 5 months, I put so much pressure on myself thinking I have to have my house immaculate I have to have a hot meal on the table when my husband got home, and then I had to be the one who took care of the baby at all times because my husband just worked 8 hours or 10 hours. I shouldn't be home all day and not doing anything. Of course that was how I thought I wasn't suppose to sit down when the baby was sleeping. I suppose to be cleaning, doing the bills, doing the laundry (because I shouldn't have any dirty clothes in the hamper at anytime) I am a stay home mom I don't have to goto work this is my job. You know I did it and I ran myself ragged. I had these expectations for myself that were just not realistic. After 5 months I had to go back to work because of finances so I went to a day care so I could be with my baby all day and get paid. Now this became a totally different situation. I still thought I had to do it all I would get so frustrated with myself when my house wasn't up to par and trust me it wasn't dirty, it was lived in but it was clean. So I went through the next 2 years just being the do all my husband help here and there but most of the time I still felt this is my job.
Well baby #3 came along I was financially able to stay home again. Oh I was so excited so I thought. having a 7 yr old and a baby was one thing, but having a 10yr old, a 3 year old and a newborn totally different and my husband went to night schoo 2 days a week. Talk about overwhelmimg I didn't know what end was up some days because I was running myself to the ground because I still had to be supermom and have everything done everyday and my husband better come home to a clean house and nice dinner etc. BUT the thing is my husband never ever told me that this is how it was suppose to be I brought all this pressure on myself thinking that I was a bad wife and mother if this isn't how I did it.
What changed things, well I ended up being diagnosed with Graves disease in the spring my daughter was 7 months old my sons were 3 and 10. I was in and out of the ER a few times, we moved into a bigger house (more to clean) and I had major surgery to get my Thyroid removed in July. I was out of commission for about 2 weeks and had to depend on other people to do things for me. By the time the fall came my daughter was a year old and I started getting really depressed and having panic attacks. I wasn't sleeping I got up every morning on about 2 to 3 hours of sleep and I just was going through the motions I started feeling like I didn't want to live I didn't want to be a mom anymore because I sucked at it and I hit the point when my husband go home from work I would go up in my room shut the door and lay in bed a cry. I had no reason to be doing it I had everything I ever wanted a wonderful husband, 3 healthy beautiful children but I did not want to be there and I did not want to live anymore. Well everyone knows where I am going with this I finally got on medication and started counseling and I realized that I was suffering from Post Pardom Depression now I was shocked because how could that be my daughter was a year and half. Well what I came to realize with my counseling was that I had PPD since the baby was born and then of course it got worse when my thyroid came out. My point is I was so sucked in to being this supermom and super wife that I didn't pay attention. I was going through the motions all this time thinking I was doing everything right that I didn't pay attention to what I was really doing to myself.
After about 3 months of counseling and medication I started realizing that the EXPECTATIONS I gave myself were way to high. Yes my house had to be cleaned the kids needed to be taken care, the laundry and meals had to be done. But I took a step back and said my house doesn't have to be immaculate all the time I can have laundry in the hamper, and I can sometimes give my children and husband an easy dinner yes we have had cereal for dinner before.
So ladies we are great moms and wives without overbearing ourselves with the pressure that we usually put on ourselves. Take a day off give yourself a little me time it is worth it and you will realize that you are a better mom for it. I hope you all have a great day and I will be back soon.
Tuesday, April 7, 2009
What a day!
The days just seem to blend together sometimes, you just don't have enough time in the day to do everything. I am lucky I can bath the kids every other night sometimes. You would think with being home all day I would have time to do everything but it really just goes fast. Before I know it I am picking the kids up from school, getting dinner ready and then it is time for bed. And it starts all over again the next day. woohoo!!
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